Image of Negativity

You will struggle to find someone who hasn’t been body shamed. too fat, too skinny, too pale. Tall for a girl, small for a boy. We laugh it off like it is no big deal but it is genuinely haunting. You think there is something wrong with you and you butcher your mind trying to change.

It’s horrible. That’s the only way to describe it. People telling you, you are not good enough because of a materialistic opinion.

There are girls out there who have been told that they have to lose weight in order to be a bridesmaid. There are girls who have been made to feel bad for being a certain weight because there will always be someone who you’re not good enough for. Who complain about your tattoos or your hair because it wont match their theme. They focus too much on making everything picture perfect rather than celebrating the happiness and friendship. People shouldn’t have to change to fit in with you, maybe you should change your outlook.

It is not your place to comment on someone’s physical appearance. It makes me angry to think that people believe they have to use factors like their personality to ‘make up’ for the fact that they are not attractive to you. Comments like “he would be really handsome if he bulked out a bit” anger me. Why is he not okay the way he is. Why do you need to comment. It’s not okay and it’s not fair to make someone feel ugly and ashamed of who they are.
I’m siting here sipping on my coffee typing away and pouring out my frustrations. It is a widely fought issue and a topic that really bothers me. No one should be made to feel that low.

Stephanie Lange left a post yesterday of her in a bikini. She did a PLT haul a few weeks back, in that haul was bikinis, bodies, swimsuits all stuff that we wear. Anyway the hate she got was disgusting, she highlighted some of the tamer comments in said post. People called her a whore and a slut, compared her to a pornstar, literally said she was doing soft porn. it’s sickening it really is, Stephanie Lange is such a beautiful person and for her to be treated that way for wearing a bikini really pisses me off.

It makes me angry that these people can say such vile things then go about their lives like they are the best thing since sliced bread and genuinely believing they have done nothing wrong.

I support the belief that online trolling is wrong. Keep your negative opinions to yourself. Everyone has the freedom of speech I know but you don’t need to shove your negativity down everyone’s throat. Focus on yourself and let others do the same.

I am a 30 year old woman and I am lucky enough to say that I feel confident with my body. I do not base my self worth or my self respect on what I wear. How much skin I do, or do not choose to cover does not determine my value as a person, or how ‘classy’ I am. For centuries women have been told what they should wear, and what parts of their bodies they should hide for ‘moral decency’. Its 2018 now, and it’s getting old. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you swipe right you’ll see just a few examples of the comments I receive on my videos. These aren’t even the worst ones. The worst comments, I delete straight away. I’ve been called a whore, a slut and a prostitute, usually because of my fashion try on clothing hauls on YouTube. I can assure you however, that I have never sold my body for sex. Nor would I ever judge anyone who has been in that position. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Every woman should be allowed to wear what she feels most comfortable in, whether that’s full length trousers and long sleeve top, or a skimpy bikini. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My body is mine alone. No one gets to tell me what I should or shouldn’t do with it, or what I should or shouldn’t wear. To say I should only wear a bikini or bodysuit in front of my husband / boyfriend is so disrespectful. My partner doesn’t own my body – I do. My partner does not control me. He is a modern man who believes that women are capable of making their own decisions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Although some of the comments I receive would have you thinking the opposite, I can assure you that I have never been naked online. However, I am extremely comfortable with my body, and I do not believe that a body is something grotesque that should be hidden. I think people forget that being naked is not a bad thing. We’re born naked aren’t we? We all have a bum. We all have nipples. It’s not ‘foul’ or ‘disgusting’. Let’s get over it.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Its 2018 people. Time to stop shaming women for what they wear. Our value is not represented by our outfit choices.
Bikini is from @prettylittlething for those interested. ❤️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#LANGEFAM #Women #BodyConfidence #StopShamingWomen

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